Another Valentine’s Day has come and gone…What is Valentine’s Day? Is it the day we express our love for a significant other?
For some it is. In reality it is a day people get suckered into spending loads of cash on their mate.
Some of you out there are probably wondering, “Why did I just spend a hell of a lot of money on someone I’ve only dated for a few months?”
If I were there in the same room as you I would ask you the same question. Why? Why would anyone spend a lot on someone else? Now don’t get me wrong Valentine’s Day is a wonderful day for people who have been in a long-term relationship. By long term I mean a year or more.
But year after year you hear stories of people spending outrageous amounts of money on someone thinking it will mean so much to the other person. But this doesn’t just apply to Valentine’s Day. This happens on any given day, whether it’s an anniversary, birthday, you name it.
In reality what does a couple of thousand bucks represent? Love? Commitment?
No, it represents a couple of thousand bucks or several hundred. You choose the amount.
You may argue that it is not the amount but the symbolic gesture.
Many times women have told me of the expensive gifts they received from someone they were dating. I usually follow this piece of information with the following line of questioning:
“So where is this guy now? Are you still dating him?”
“Did he not have an awesome personality?”
“Was he a boring guy?”
It’s funny how girls always look at me with stunned silence before they admit that the guy who was the big spender was boring, lacked a fun personality and is now out of the picture. A guy who usually spends a lot on a woman is trying to compensate for a lack of personality.
Think about it. Why would a guy spend a lot on a dinner, a ring or a trip or any given object when a guy could instead be creative and make an unforgettable evening by adding fun and excitement?
Believe me, a man who spends little but provides a fun evening will be remembered for a long time. The guy who spends a lot will be exactly that… the guy who spent a lot.
Buying expensive things for a woman is not always ideal – for either party. Ask a woman how she feels when she receives such a thing.
Does she get warm and fuzzy inside? Does attraction for the guy increase?
Quite the contrary. A woman will immediately start questioning the motives for the expensive gifts. Don’t believe me? Ask a good female friend.
The majority of the time she’ll wonder what the guy wants from her even if it’s a “nice guy.”
Not long ago, a good female friend of mine who happens to work in a jewelry store told me of a guy who was buying a five thousand dollar ring for someone he had been dating a whopping three months. When I asked her what she would do in the girl’s shoes she responded with, “I would run so fast from that guy.”Let’s face it, an expensive gift does not lead to attraction or keep attraction going. Odds are that it will do quite the contrary. It sends the wrong message. It says, “I’m a needy guy. I’m spending a lot on you because I’m afraid you’ll leave me. I need your approval.”
So guys, next time you get that urge to spend a lot on a Valentine’s Day, or that 3 month anniversary, or for no reason at all, I have a piece of advise…
DON’T DO IT!
Simply go ahead make her that dinner for two and have some great sex. Or better yet, don’t do anything. Odds are this will pay better dividends.
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