The Skirt-Chaser - With Sam Munoz #1

31-year-old male, married to a lovely wife, two lovely kids and a beautiful house in the suburbs…

The couple is surrounded by great friends and they’ll probably stay married and deeply in love for many years to come. Too perfect right? Maybe that’s how you would picture the ideal life of a male. That’s right. That’s how YOU would picture the ideal life of a 31-year-old male. Well not in my view.

I don’t fit any of the above criteria. Well… except for the fact that I am a male 31 years of age. Other than that, you could throw it all out the window.

You’re probably thinking, “Oh here is someone about to whine about their sad state of affairs in the life of a single man.”

No, sorry, this is not “Sex and the City” on testosterone. In fact, it is quite the opposite. I’m not out there trying to find the “ideal” partner, or out there looking to find THE companion. I’m staying away from settling down.

Why not? I mean 50 percent of all American marriages end in divorce. Why not prolong the inevitable another 10 or 15 years, right?

At this point my goal is to celebrate my single life. There’s no need to rush things; I’ve seen too many of my friends get married, live with a companion, and have children only to see their lives feel empty and miserable. I’ve received two pieces of advice a bit too often…

The first, “You should get married.”

The second, “Don’t ever get married.”

Both pieces of advice have come from married people and more often than not these same people have given me both pieces of advice - depending on their state of mind.

I’ve decided to follow their advice, at least the second piece of advice, or like I said earlier at least prolong the process.

What do I have in mind? Maybe you’re thinking that I just want to stay single so that I can date as many women as possible. Maybe you’re thinking I have commitment issues. You’re correct on both counts…. Sort of.

My parents have been married for close to 38 years. How they’ve done it? I don’t know. My hat goes off to them, but they’ve set the bar way too high. Why try to top that? There’s no need on my end to compete.

Maybe the whole thing about dating as many women as possible isn’t entirely true. I want to date as many QUALITY women as possible. Attractive and intelligent women are what I want; women with substance. The women that don’t fit these criteria, attractive and intelligent, I won’t neglect them, but odds are they won’t last as long as a hot, smart chick. Don’t get me wrong they’ll have a chance with me. I consider myself an equal opportunity guy. I’ll hit on all types of women. I only have two criteria: treat me with respect and don’t be grotesque. If you fit these criteria you have a chance.

Feel free to call me a “skirt-chaser.” I guess I am. Most men are skirt-chasers. Is that a crime?

Welcome to the beginning of this series: exploring the good, the bad, and the ugly of this single man’s life.